Sleep after 40

For years, you thought you would never get a full night's sleep again. Slowly, the babies grew up and you could finally sleep through the night! Then, they became teenagers and you would toss and turn a bit more with worry. Then, hormones started jumping all over the place. Next thing you know, you have the 'quiet' house and NOW you are unable to sleep! Or, maybe like me, you have a foot in both worlds and you're living in an almost empty nest!  I am seeing my role shift as I am now the parent of adult 'kids,' recently welcomed my first grandchild, but I still have 2 teenagers in the home to keep me on my toes. With a half-empty home, I am getting a taste of what is to come with a fully quiet home. I can see that I need to have a plan in place for what I am going to do with myself when the house is truly empty. I can also see (and feel!) the effects of aging and a non-stop schedule slowly taking it's toll on me. For years, I have lived on 4-6 hours of sleep, anything more was a luxury. As I counseled patient after patient as a nurse, I was hearing the same problem repeatedly from my elderly population, "help, I can't sleep!"  I have helped many of them with tips and tricks and lessons on HOW to finally get a good night's sleep. Apparently, my skull is a bit thick and it took me way too long to figure out that I need to starting taking my OWN advice! 😂 I have been working at putting together a sleep routine incorporating all of the tips and tricks that I have learned along the way, tips and tricks that are backed with science and research. I am learning my body and what it needs. I am taking away some of my distractions and busyness. I am realizing the importance of MY health so I can live my best life as I move forward. If you are looking to get your health in tip top shape and you are looking at embracing wellness as you age - start here, focusing on getting a good night's sleep!  

 

For us women over 40, getting a good night's sleep is the ultimate beauty secret! Start by treating yourself to a luxurious warm bath before bed – it's like a spa day in your own home! The soothing warmth helps relax tense muscles and prepares your body for a restful night ahead. If you are struggling, THIS could be the perfect step to add! It completely revolutionized my nights! I started taking a bath here and there if I was especially sore but it has now made it's way into my nightly routine and it has worked wonders!

 

Speaking of my nightly routine, let's talk about your nighttime routine. Establishing a calming ritual before bed, like reading a chapter of your favorite book or enjoying a cup of herbal tea, signals to your body that it's time to wind down. Then, slipping into a comfy bed topped with the perfect mattress and cozy bedding, feels like a hug from heaven! Invest in a mattress that supports your body just right, providing that Goldilocks-approved level of comfort – not too firm, not too soft, but just perfect for you (unless, like me, you have to compromise a little for your husband’s needs! But I digress, that’s another topic (in another post - here!)

 

And hey, let's not forget about staying active during the day! Whether it's a morning stretching session, an afternoon walk with friends, or a dance party in the living room (trust me, the living room is the ONLY place I need to be dancing, actually, this might be a hobby I take a stab at - I have always wished I had moves!), getting your body moving boosts those feel-good endorphins and helps you sleep at night. So, ladies, let's make sleep a priority and embrace those Zzz's – because well-rested is the foundation to your healthy self!

 

And yes, we will also talk supplements that have helped me and I always encourage seeking medical advice from your doctor if you continue to struggle! 😉

 

Happy Sleeping!

Here are a few tips in a nutshell to get started!

 

  • Create a relaxing bedtime routine: Incorporate activities like reading, gentle stretching, or meditation to signal to your body that it's time to wind down.
  • Invest in a quality mattress: Choose a mattress that provides the right balance of support and comfort for your body, ensuring a restful night's sleep.
  • Enjoy a warm bath before bed: Soak away the day's stressors and promote relaxation with a luxurious warm bath, helping you drift off to sleep more easily.
  • Limit screen time before bed: Power down electronic devices at least an hour before bedtime to reduce exposure to blue light, which can interfere with your body's natural sleep-wake cycle.
  • Maintain a consistent sleep schedule: Aim to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day, even on weekends, to regulate your body's internal clock. (this one is my struggle!)
  • Create a calming sleep environment: Keep your bedroom cool, dark, and quiet, and consider using white noise machines or earplugs to block out any disruptive sounds. Personally, my husband does where earplugs every night and I am good as long as the fan is on above our bed. I have also used an app that provided white noise and I will do that on occasion still. 
  • Watch your caffeine intake: Limit caffeine consumption in the afternoon and evening, as it can interfere with your ability to fall asleep.
  • Stay active during the day: Engage in regular exercise to promote better sleep quality and overall health, but avoid vigorous workouts close to bedtime.
  • Practice relaxation techniques: Experiment with deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, or guided imagery to help calm your mind and prepare for sleep.
  • Consider dietary changes: Avoid heavy meals, spicy foods, and excessive liquids before bed, and try incorporating sleep-promoting foods like bananas, almonds, and herbal teas into your evening routine.

 

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